"We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give." ~ Winston Churchill
I find the above quote to really represent the nature of mentoring. It is in the giving that both partners are changed. When I obtain feedback from mentoring pairs, it is usually the case that mentors will articulate that they gain as much as the mentoree and that is truly the case. For this reason, I want to encourage anyone who doesn't have a mentor yet to seek out that person who is willing to walk the journey with you in your development. The biggest fear we have in asking someone to be our mentor is that we will be rejected. But if you remember the quote above and that it's about giving, this should give you courage to ask because most people, when asked, will be helpful. When you ask, share that you want to give them something back as well. This sets the stage for the other person to feel the request will not be a burden but a benefit. So, when you think of the mentor you'd like to ask, think about what you can offer him/her and make that known to them at that time.